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Hendrix’s work in the above title is essentially about marriage counselling. He begins by talking about his history in counselling others in failing marriages. He first used ‘problem-oriented, contractual marriage counseling’ (p. xiv) and when this approach failed, he turned to the individual counselling of each partner. However, the issue of finding a more helpful approach became more acute when he and his wife began to have their own marriage problems. Although, they were fully committed to their marriage and worked hard for about 8 years to try to save it, they were finally divorced. Hendrix felt a failure as a husband and as a therapist.
He analysed the failure of the marriage and sensed that behind all the reasons that each of them could give for breakdown a ‘central disappointment’ (p. iv) lurked. Out of his research and therapy with many couples, he developed what he came to call, ‘Imago (ih-MAH'-go) Relationship Therapy’ (p. iv). He describes his approach as eclectic, a bringing together of ‘depth psychology, the behavioral sciences, the Western spiritual tradition 1, and added some elements of Transactional Analysis, Gestalt psychology, systems theory, and cognitive therapy’ (p. iv). He believed that only with such a synthesis was he able to finally see a reduction in the number of couples breaking up and divorcing in his practice.
Introduction
Getting the love you want
- Part 1. The Unconscious Marriage: The disillusionment path (5 chapters)
- 1. The mystery of attraction
2. Childhood wounds
3. Your imago
4. Romantic love
5. The power struggle
Part II. The Conscious Marriage: How a marriage can be fixed up (7 chapters)
- 1. Becoming conscious
2. Ten characteristics of a conscious marriage
Part III. The Exercises: 13 steps towards a ‘conscious marriage’.
- 1. Closing exits
2. Increasing your knowledge of yourself and your partner
3. Defining your curriculum
Reference
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